WHEN HARDSHIP AFFLICTS A BELIEVER :')

WHEN HARDSHIP AFFLICTS A BELIEVER.. :')

Assalamualaikum & Bismillah <3

Ayub A.S…..Ayub A.S. , he had 14 children and he had great health and wealth, everybody loved him.

 

One day, after 80 years, Allah S.W.T. took away all of his children..one by one...then Allah S.W.T. took away his wealth..then Allah S.W.T. took away his health until the narration says, that his skin used to fall off his body until you could see his muscles and his bones. And he is still alive, breathing. 

Not only that, the people began to say if this man was a good person, Allah wouldn’t have done this to him..and so he lost his close friends.

One day, his wife came and said, “ Ya Ayub (A.S.)! Isn’t it enough now?! Can’t you ask Allah to get rid of this? It’s enough! We’ve gone through too much! “

Ayub (A.S.) then said, “ My wife, how long did Allah S.W.T. give me blessings for? “

She said, “ 80 years or so. “

He said, “ I am too shy to ask Allah S.W.T. to cure me, yet until 80 years of this time has gone as well. Allah S.W.T. has given me so much. “

It was after 7 years, however, when he saw his wife resorted to taking her hair and selling it.

That he said, “ Rabbi.. (O my lord) “

Even look at the way the Prophet A.S. , he asked Allah S.W.T. to cure him. He didn’t say, “ O Allah! Cure me! O Allah! You have harmed me! O Allah! You brought the sickness! Take it away from me! “

No! No! No!

He said, “ O my Lord! Harm has afflicted me. “

He didn’t even attribute it to Allah S.W.T. because when harm comes to a Muslim, and Allah S.W.T. afflicts you with some kind of hardship, it’s actually good for you..

I am going to say the hadith in a minute :

Wa anta ArhamurRahimiin

“ And You are The Most Merciful! “

Allah says,

“ We took away all the harm away from him. We gave him his family back and his children back and doubled their amount. We gave him wealth..grasshoppers, like the shape of the grasshoppers of gold began to raim onto Ayub A.S. He used to pick them up and he used to more than he had. “

In a hadith it says, he would go around picking as much as he can so quickly and then Allah S.W.T. sent Jibril A.S. and said to him,

“ Ya Ayub! Are you not already being given enough blessings? Why are you trying to hog everything up? Don’t worry, Allah S.W.T. are giving you blessings! Why are you so quick and wanting to gather it all? “

Then Ayub A.S. said : “ Ya Rabb! Who is there that can take enough of your nikmah (enough of your blessings) ? I am gathering your blessings, ya Rabb! “

So as a muslim, Allah loves to see His servant taking from His blessing. He loves it and thanking Allah for His blessing, if when in a hardship, they also thank Allah and they are patient.

The prophet A.S. said, “ Strange is the matter of the believer, for anything that happens to him or her is good. “

Subhanallah!

Then Prophet A.S. said, “ When something good happens to them, they thank Allah S.W.T. When something bad happens to them, they are patient. “

Because Allah S.W.T. says in the Quran :

“ We shall surely test you with the loss of health and wealth and fear and hunger and loss of lives and loss of fruits and food…and give glad to tidings to those who are patient, the ones when a calamity befalls them, they say, “ To Allah S.W.T. we belong and to Him, we shall return. “

 (Al-Baqarah : 155 – 156)

They remember that this is a test!

Thank you :) May Allah bless us!

EVERYTIME REMEMBER ALLAH 🌸❤

🌸  EVERYTIME REMEMBER ALLAH 🌸

Assalamualaikum & Bismillah <3

❤ Remember Allah, O believer at all times and occasions (Mukmin). 

❤ Remember Allah if you are on your airplane seat. 

❤ Remember Allah while you seclusion at your residence or at your hotel. 

❤ Remember Allah when you are with your friends and those you mix in your gathering. 

❤ Remember Allah when you are approaching one of the houses of Allah (The Mosque). 

❤ Remember Allah when you go up the stairs of your house. 

❤ Remember Allah when you are between your sons and daughters. 

❤ Remember Allah at all times and occasions. 

Indeed in the creation of the heavens and the earth and the alternation of the night and the day are signs for those of understanding. 

Who remember Allah  while standing or sitting or lying on their sides and give thought to the creation of the heavens and the earth, saying,

“ Our Lord, you did not create this aimlessly exalted are you (above such a thing) then protect us from the punishment of the fire “

(Surah Al-Imran)

The prophet S.A.W. said : “ The example of the one who remembers Allah in comparison with the one who does not remember Allah is that of the living and the dead. “

Allah says,

“ And is one who was dead and we gave him life and made for him light by which to walk among the people “

(Surah Al-Maidah)

And whoever has been overcome by listening to immorality, turning to it and busying one’s self with it, has been prohibited from the blessing of being able to remember Allah.

And whoever has been overcome by the love of Allah and contentment with his religion and racing towards his pleasure, he will be overcome by remembering Allah at every time and occasion.

And everyone should know that the remembrance of Allah is the life of the consciences and the pleasure of the inner self and the strongest ammunition.

The Most Truthful has said :

“ Those who believe and whose hearts find rest in the remembrance of Allah, verily in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest. “

(Surah Al-Ra’ad)

Wallahualam. May Allah bless us and guide us to the highest jannah, inshaa Allah..aamiin <3

REMEMBER ALLAH & QUICKLY TURN TO ALLAH :)

REMEMBER ALLAH & TURN TO ALLAH :)

Assalamualaikum & Bismillah,

“ So remember me (Allah S.W.T.) and I will remember you. And be grateful to me (Allah S.W.T) and do not deny me (Allah S.W.T.) “

(Al – Baqarah : 152)

My beloved sisters and brothers in Islam, is it important that we are conscious of Allah S.W.T. Every khutbah or sermon that we hear, usually we will find the imam commencing with the warning or the encouragement, (اتقوا الله) be conscious of Allah S.W.T. 

We normally take this for granted and sometimes we just hear it and we have the idea of what it means, but we sometimes forget to put it into our own lives. And this is why it is important for us to think for a moment and to pause. Every single time we hear that reminder. What does it mean? Am I planning to engage in that which will displease Allah S.W.T. ?

Do I use my phone in a way that will displease my Maker? Am I in touch with those whom I am not supposed to be in touch with? Am I engaged in a relationship with the opposite sex in a way that I am not supposed to be? If that’s the case, the only way to achieve the pleasure of Allah S.W.T. is by becoming conscious of Him and putting an end to everything of that nature that will displease Allah S.W.T.

Remember the warnings and the reminders that have got to our ears, were never meant to miss our ears. So I will be asked and so will you. I will be asked of the reminder and wether I put it into practice or not and wether it was delivered or not. And yourselves, you will also be asked about the reminder. Did you hear it or not? And what did you do about it. *Crying*

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

وَذَرِ الَّذِينَ اتَّخَذُواْ دِينَهُمْ لَعِبًا وَلَهْوًا وَغَرَّتْهُمُ الْحَيَاةُ الدُّنْيَا وَذَكِّرْ بِهِ أَن تُبْسَلَ نَفْسٌ بِمَا كَسَبَتْ لَيْسَ لَهَا مِن دُونِ اللّهِ وَلِيٌّ وَلاَ شَفِيعٌ وَإِن تَعْدِلْ كُلَّ عَدْلٍ لاَّ يُؤْخَذْ مِنْهَا أُوْلَـئِكَ الَّذِينَ أُبْسِلُواْ بِمَا كَسَبُواْ لَهُمْ شَرَابٌ مِّنْ حَمِيمٍ وَعَذَابٌ أَلِيمٌ بِمَا كَانُواْ يَكْفُرُونَ 

“ And leave alone those who take their religion as play and amusement, and are deceived by the life of this world. But remind (them) with it (the Qur'an) let a person be given up to destruction for that which he has earned, when he will find for himself no protector or intercessor besides Allah, and even if he offers every ransom, it will not be accepted from him. Such are they who are given up to destruction because of that which they have earned. For them will be a drink of boiling water and a painful torment because they used to disbelieve. “

(Al-An’am : 70)

Wallahualam. May Allah bless us and guide us to the highest Jannah, inshaa Allah, aamiin <3

Barakallahufikum :) 

😊 KISAH RASULULLAH S.A.W. DAN MALAIKAT PENJAGA GUNUNG 😊

😊 KISAH RASULULLAH S.A.W. DAN MALAIKAT PENJAGA GUNUNG 😊

Assalamualaikum & Bismillah :)

- Disebut dalam Hadis Sahih Bukhari, volume 4, hadis nombor 3231 - 

Bahawa isteri Rasulullah S.A.W. (Aisyah R.A.) bertanya kepada baginda, " Apakah hari dalam hidupmu yang lebih buruk daripada hari Perang Uhud? Yang manakah hari terburuk dalam hidupmu? "

Rasulullah S.A.W. menjawab, " Ya. Itu ialah hari Aqabah di Thaif. "

Dan ketika Rasulullah S.A.W. menyampaikan dakwah Islam kepada penduduk Thaif, mereka mengejek dan tidak mendengar pesanan baginda. Mereka tidak mematuhi Rasulullah S.A.W. dan beberapa riwayat mengatakan, mereka malah membaling / melempar / menindih baginda dengan batu. Itulah hari terburuk dalam hidup Rasulullah SAW.

Lalu ketika Rasulullah S.A.W. terbaring dengan wajahnya menghadap matahari, tiba-tiba baginda melihat segumpal awan meneduhi kepalanya (segumpal awan kelabu).

Dan ketika baginda mendongak, baginda melihat Malaikat Jibril A.S. 

Lalu Jibril A.S. berkata, 

" Allah telah menyaksikan apa yang mereka telah lakukan kepadamu dan bagaimana perlakuan mereka terhadapmu. Jadi Allah telah mengutuskan malaikat penjaga gunung untuk membantumu. "

Kemudian Jibril A.S. memanggil malaikat penjaga gunung. Ketika malaikat penjaga gunung datang, dia berkata kepada Rasulullah S.A.W. , " Tuhanmu telah mengutuskanku dan kami telah mendengar dan menyaksikan apa yang dilakukan orang-orang kepadamu. Perintahkanlah apa yang harus ku lakukan! Apapun katamu, akan ku lakukan! Apakah kau ingin aku mengangkat kedua gunung Kota Makkah? Atau mahukah kau jika aku menghimpitkan dua gunung Makkah sehingga orang-orang itu akan hancur kerana terhimpit dengan kedua-dua gunung itu? "

Rasulullah S.A.W. menjawab, " Tidak. Aku lebih menginginkan jika Allah S.W.T. menjadikan keturunan orang-orang ini & generasi mereka berikutnya menyembah Allah dan tidak mempersekutukan-Nya. "

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Bayangkanlah Rasulullah S.A.W. bersabda bahawa inilah hari paling buruk dalam hidupnya. Bayangkan jika ini hari terburuk dalam hidupmu dan ada seseorang yang ingin menolongmu, dan berkata " Aku akan hancurkan mereka. " 

Tapi Rasulullah S.A.W berkata, " Jangan hancurkan mereka, tapi aku inginkan agar Allah menjadikan keturunan mereka, generasi mereka, anak-anak mereka menjadi orang-orang yang beriman kepada Allah dan tak mempersekutukan Allah. 

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Ada satu lagi kisah Rasulullah S.A.W. yang kita boleh contohi :)

Disebut dalam Hadis Sahih Bukhari Volume 8, hadis nombor 6397, 

Bahawa salah seorang sahabat menghampiri Rasulullah S.A.W dan berkata, " Penduduk Daus tidak setuju dengan ajaran Islam dan mereka menolak ajaran Islam. Kenapa kau tidak mengutuk / menyumpah penduduk Daus ini? " 

Dan sahabat itu mengira bahawa sekarang Rasulullah S.A.W. akan mengutuk penduduk Daus.

Tapi Rasulullah S.A.W. berdoa, " Ya Allah, berilah hidayah kepada penduduk Daus sehingga mereka dekat dengan kami. Berilah hidayah, berilah petunjuk kepada mereka. " 

Rasulullah S.A.W. tidak mengutuk / menyumpah mereka. Malah tidak berburuk sangka terhadap mereka.

Terima kasih sudi baca :) :) :) 

ELAK TIDUR SELEPAS SUBUH :)

Assalamualaikum :)

Bismillahirrahmaanirrahiim...

Waktu pagi adalah waktu yang penuh barakah dan di antara waktu yang diperintahkan untuk dimanfaatkan sebaiknya. Mengisi waktu tersebut adalah satu keutamaan yang besar menurut para ulama berdasarkan hadis-hadis sahih. 

Namun apa yang dilihat, banyak di kalangan kita yang melalaikan waktu yang mulia ini. Ruang dan kesempatan yang seharusnya dipergunakan untuk bekerja, melakukan ketaatan dan beribadah, ternyata lebih gemar digunakan untuk tidur dan bermalas-malasan.

Orang-orang soleh terdahulu sangat membenci tidur pagi. Sehingga apabila mereka melakukan perjalanan semalam suntuk, mereka tidak mahu tidur di waktu tersebut hingga terbit matahari. Mereka melakukan demikian kerana waktu pagi adalah waktu terbukanya pintu rezeki dan datangnya barokah (banyak kebaikan).”

(Madarijus Salikin, 1/459, Maktabah Syamilah)

Ibnul Qayyim (ulama hadis dan fiqh) ketika menjelaskan masalah banyak tidur menyatakan bahawa banyak tidur dapat mematikan hati dan membuat badan merasa malas serta membuang waktu. 

Beliau menyatakan antara sebab bahaya tidur pada awal pagi ialah:

- Tidak sesuai dengan petunjuk Al Qur’an dan As Sunnah.

- Bukan termasuk akhlak dan kebiasaan para salafush soleh (generasi terbaik umat ini), bahkan merupakan perbuatan yang dibenci.

- Tidak mendapatkan barokah di dalam waktu dan amalannya.

- Menyebabkan malas dan tidak bersemangat di sisa harinya.

- Menghambat datangnya rezeki.

Kemudian, beliau menambah, “Empat hal yang menghambat datangnya rezeki adalah;

[1] tidur di waktu pagi,

[2] sedikit solat,

[3] malas-malasan dan

[4] berkhianat.”

(Zaadul Ma’ad, 4/378)

Selain itu, Ibnu Qayyim juga berkata bahawa:

"Tidur di siang hari amat dikeji kerana ia akan mewarisi penyakit kebengkakkan (muka kelihatan sembab dan tidak bercahaya) malapetaka, merosakkan warna kulit, menimbulkan penyakit radang limpa, melemahkan urat saraf dan melemahkan syahwat. Sekeji-keji tidur ialah ketika awal hari (matahari terbit) dan terlebih keji lagi ialah tidur di akhir siang hari (selepas Asar)."

“Pagi hari bagi seseorang itu seperti waktu muda dan akhir harinya seperti waktu tuanya.” 

(Miftah Daris Sa’adah, 2/216). 

Sementara Ibnu Qayyim sendiri apabila selepas Solat Subuh beliau akan duduk ditempatnya dan berzikir sehingga matahari terbit lalu berkata: 

“Inilah pagiku, jika aku tidak duduk maka hilanglah kekuatanku.” 

(Ibn Hajar al-‘Asqalani, al-Durar al-Kaminah 4/401).

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Rasulullah saw sendiri tidak tidur selepas menunaikan solat subuh kerana Allah memberkati umat ini yang berpagi-pagi, seperti satu hadith yg berbunyi: 

"Ya Allah, berkatilah umatku yang berpagi-pagi." 

(Diriwayatkan at-Tirmizi, Abu Daud dan selainnya)

Sabda Nabi saw juga pernah bersabda:

"Berpagi-pagilah(subuh)dalam mencari rezeki,sesungguhnya berpagi-pagi itu adalah keberkatan dan kejayaan."

(Riwayat at-Tabarani dalam al-Awsath)

Di dalam riwayat lain pula, sebagaimana yang diriwayatkan oleh ashab as-Sunan yg empat dan Ibn Hibban dalam Sohihnya, Nabi melewati anaknya Fatimah r.a. yang sedang berbaring pada waktu Subuh, maka Baginda bersabda:

"Wahai anakku, bangunlah dan hadaplah rezeki Tuhanmu, dan janganlah engkau jadi dari kalangan org yang lalai, sesungguhnya Allah membahagikan rezeki manusia di antara terbit fajar hingga terbit matahari."

(Riwayat al-Baihaqi)

Anas bin Malik dia berkata:Rasulullah saw bersabda: 

"Sesungguhnya keluar pada pagi hari di jalan Allah atau pada siang hari adalah lebih baik dari dunia serta isinya." 

(Riwayat Muslim)

Hazrat Ata bin Abi Rabah rah. berkata, "Telah sampai kepadaku bahawa Rasulullah s.a.w. bersabda, 

"Sesiapa yang membaca surah Yaasin pada permulaan hari maka segala hajatnya akan dipenuhkan." 

(Hadith rawayat Darimi)

Maka dengan sebab ini para fuqaha menetapkan hukum makruh tidur selepas subuh.

"Dimakruhkan tidurmu -wahai mukallaf- selepas solat Subuh, kerana waktu itu adalah waktu mencari rezeki dan berusaha (syara' dan 'uruf) di sisi org yg beraqal."

(dinukilkan oleh Imam as-Safarini)

Adapun yang dikecualikan dari kemakruhan ini adalah mereka yg berjaga malam utk qiyam atau belum tidur sepanjang malam dan sebagainya. 

Terima kasih sudi baca :) Moga Allah redha :) 

- Bidadari Syurga Solehah -

KISAH RASULULLAH S.A.W. DAN BUAH LIMAU :')

KISAH RASULULLAH S.A.W. DAN BUAH LIMAU 

Assalamualaikum & Bismillah :)

Suatu hari, Rasulullah S.A.W. didatangi oleh seorang wanita kafir. Ketika itu, baginda bersama beberapa orang sahabat. 

Wanita itu membawa beberapa biji buah limau sebagai hadiah untuk baginda. 

Cantik sungguh buahnya. Siapa yang melihatnya pasti akan terliur. 

Baginda menerimanya dengan senyuman gembira. Hadiah itu dimakan oleh Rasulullah S.A.W. ulas demi seulas dengan senyuman. Biasanya Rasulullah S.A.W. akan makan bersama para sahabat, namun kali ini tidak. Tidak seulas pun limau itu diberikan kepada mereka. 

Rasulullah S.A.W. terus makan dan terus makan. Setiap kali dimasukkan ke dalam mulut dengan senyuman, sehinggalah habis semua buah limau itu. 

Kemudian wanita itu meminta diri untuk pulang, diiringi ucapan terima kasih daripada baginda. 

Sahabat-sahabat agak hairan dengan sikap Rasulullah S.A.W. itu. Lalu mereka bertanya. Dengan tersenyum, baginda menjelaskan, " Tahukah kamu, sebenarnya buah limau itu terlalu masam semasa saya merasainya kali pertama. Sekiranya kalian turut makan bersama, saya bimbang ada di antara kalian yang akan menyengetkan mata atau memarahi wanita tersebut. Saya bimbang hatinya tersinggung. Sebab itu saya habiskan semuanya. "

Begitulah akhlak Rasulullah S.A.W. Baginda tidak memperkecilkan pemberian sesiapa pun biarpun hadiah tersebut tidak baik (terlalu masam) dan dari orang bukan Islam. 

Wanita kafir itu pulang dengan hati yang kecewa. MENGAPA? Sebenarnya dia bertujuan ingin mempermainkan Rasulullah S.A.W. dan para sahabat baginda dengan hadiah buah limau masam itu. Malangnya tidak berjaya. Rancangannya di'tewas'kan oleh akhlak mulia Rasulullah S.A.W. 

MARI CINTAI & CONTOHI AKHLAK RASULULLAH S.A.W. :)

Sesungguhnya segala yang baik tu datang dari Allah dan segala yang buruk itu datang daripada saya. 

Mohon maaf salah silap. 

Saya doakan semoga kita semua dipermudahkan urusan, dimurahkan rezeki, diberkati & dirahmati Allah selalu. Semoga kita dikumpulkan bersama-sama di syurga Allah dengan rahmat Allah. Marilah kita bersama-sama berubah ke arah kebaikan. Tiada manusia yang sempurna. Kita pernah melalui fasa kejahilan. Sesungguhnya Allah Maha Pengampun lagi Maha Penyayang. Allah Maha Penerima Taubat. Marilah kita berubah sedikit demi sedikit dengan istiqamah. 

Sekian. Assalamualaikum :) 

- Bidadari Syurga Solehah -

8 Ways to Forgive and Forget

Say a Prayer

Whenever angry feelings about a person who's harmed you enter your mind, tell yourself: "We are all good, loving souls who occasionally get lost." Pray for this person to find their way back to a happier place—in the same way the woman in this story prayed for her offender.

Focus on Gratitude

Resist seeking happiness from the outside in. Instead, focus on gratitude exercises to bring happiness from the inside out. If you allow your self-image to be at the mercy of unpredictable events and unreliable people, your happiness will be forever on a chaotic roller coaster ride! Happiness must always be an inside joy! When you are tempted to focus on all the ways the world has done you wrong, instead count your blessings by making a list of the five aspects of your life that you appreciate. It is good practice to purposefully end your day this way to keep focused.

Look for the Lesson

Many consider huge difficulties to be a sign you're an old soul—the bigger your misfortunes, the closer you are to enlightenment. Whether you believe this or not, it's certainly cheery to reframe all your life's bad events as tests of your character. If you feel particularly tested right now, ask yourself what the heck you're being tested for! Patience? Compassion? Resilience? Forgiveness? Open-mindedness? What strengths must you develop further? Now consciously go out there and develop them!

Maintain Perspective

If you're going through a challenging time, remind yourself that this specific event is merely a part of your life—not your "whole" life. Consciously keep this "slice of life" perspective, and don't let the event overwhelm you. As the song goes, "The best is yet to come!"
Learn the Lesson

Develop a "student not victim" mentality. Vow not only to disentangle yourself from emotionally harmful situations, but also to consciously avoid similar situations in the future.
Let Go of Resentment

Keep in mind a fabulous Carrie Fisher quote: "Resentment is the poison you swallow hoping the other person will die." Recognize that when you resent someone, you are not only hurting yourself, you're also giving this person control of your emotions—and you don't want to give this person bubkes!

Stay Centered

Recognize that when you respond with hate to hate, anger to anger, bitterness to bitterness, you are ironically becoming part of the problem. Choose to resist becoming like them and instead put in the conscious effort to remain a loving, soulful, happy person. 
Get Revenge Positively

Contemplating revenge? The best kind of revenge is living a successful, happy life. If you train yourself to consistently be more loving in thoughts and actions, your energy will attract more positive people and positive results. As Albert Einstein said, "You can't solve a problem by staying in the same energy in which it was created." To stay focused on highly positive thoughts, repeat this meditation ritual throughout the day: "Love, forgiveness, letting go, peace."

More in : 

http://bidadarisyurgasolehah.blogspot.com/2016/04/how-to-forgive-and-forget-move-on-in.html

Check it out ;) 

How To Forgive And Forget + Move On In Islam :)

Forgiving Others, Enhancing Personal Productivity

Imagine the feeling of looking at the man who murdered your uncle, who cut out his organs and gave it to someone to eat- and forgiving him. Imagine being abused and taunted, and when given the chance to retaliate, instead you forgive. This was the Messenger of Allah Ta’ala (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam), a man described as “an excellent exemplar for those who hope in Allah and the Last Day” [Quran, Chapter 33, Surat al-Ahzab, 33:21].

Many of us cannot forgive our parents or friends or spouses when they say hurtful things in anger. We hold grudges for years, unable to forget the things people have done to us. On the one hand, we feel justified in feeling this way. After all, we are the ones wronged. On the other, bottling things up inside is unhealthy at the very least, on both a spiritual and psychological level.

It is natural to be upset at someone when they’ve hurt you. The Prophet (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) told us that a Muslim is not allowed to break off ties with another Muslim for more than 3 days, recognizing that we need time to cool off. Yet what is unhealthy, and often destructive, is the inability to forgive and move on.

So what does forgiving actually mean?

Forgiving means not carrying a grudge in your heart against that person. Forgiving means that if you were given the chance to retaliate, you would choose not to. Forgiving means not wishing evil, even if secretly, upon the person. It means you can continue to be civil towards them, and that you can even bring yourself to pray for their well-being and guidance.

However, forgiveness does not mean that you cannot learn from the trial. It doesn’t mean that the person did not do wrong, nor does it justify what they did. If you trusted someone and they betrayed your trust, forgiveness does not mean that you have to trust them again if they haven’t given you reason to. You are able to treat them well, without resentment in your heart, but if you learned something about their character, you should keep that in mind when dealing with them.

So how can we benefit from forgiving others? How can this help us to be productive Muslims?

1. Spiritual productivity: Earning Allah’s pleasure

When we are preoccupied with the wrongs others have committed against us, we lose focus of one of the most beautiful ways to get closer to Allah. The Prophet (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) said:

“There was a merchant who used to extend credit to people. If he found one of his customers to be in straightened means, he would say to his assistants: “Forgive them their debt, perhaps Allah will forgive us.” Allah did forgive him.” [Bukhari/Muslim]

There is a direct correlation between the ways we treat others and how Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta’ala) treats us. We all know the Prophet’s (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) famous saying “Have mercy on those on the earth, and the One in heaven will have mercy on you2” [Tirmidhi]. Of course, Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta’ala) is incomparably greater and more merciful than us. Therefore, whatever we do for others, Allah will multiply that for us. If we are sincere in wanting Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta’ala) to forgive us for our many slip-ups and sins, we should be prepared to do that for others.

The Prophet (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam), while sitting in the mosque with the Companions (radi Allahu anhum), pointed out a person who entered the mosque as being of those who would enter Jannah. He did this for 3 days, and every time, it was the same person who entered the mosque. Abdullah bin ‘Amr (radi Allahu anhu) wanted to know what quality this man possessed that made the Prophet (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) say that about him, so he spent three nights with that man. He did not notice that the man prayed the optional night prayers during any of these nights, but if he woke up during the night, he would simply mention Allah. So before he left, he had to ask him what he did that was so special that the Prophet (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) identified him as a man of Jannah. The man replied: “My deeds are nothing more than what you saw”. When Abdullah (radi Allahu anhu) left, he (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) called him back in and said: “My deeds are nothing more than what you saw, but the only thing I do is that I do not hold any grudge against any Muslim or envy anyone for what bounties Allah has granted them”; thereupon ‘Abdullah Ibn ‘Amr (radi Allahu anhu) said to him: “This difficult quality to obtain is what granted you this rank”. [Ahmad]

That is what it means to be true believer. Our focus is not simply in how much we pray, although that has its place. Rather we are so focused on gaining the pleasure of Allah that people’s wrongs against us are insignificant. This is why Allah described the believers as “those who avoid the major sins and immoralities, and when they are angry, they forgive” [Surat ash-Shu’ara, 42:37].

2. Psychological Productivity: Gaining Strength

Psychologists have said that the inability to forgive may cause a person to repeatedly bring anger and bitterness into every relationship and new experience. The hurt and insecurity caused by our offender is projected onto others, because we were not able to move on from our previous experience.

We are not being asked to condone what others have done to us, but rather we should acknowledge that they have hurt us and it was wrong. We should reflect on why this was hurtful, what may have been the motives of the person who hurt us, and what we should learn. And then we should move on, because we cannot change the past, but we can certainly use it to empower ourselves and become better people, insha Allah.

When we take the step to learn from a hurtful experience, we should be able to prevent ourselves from doing the same to others. Many times we condemn what we do ourselves- we are hurt that someone has spoken behind our backs, but we backbite all the time. We feel slighted when we are not appreciated by our parents, but never once did we recognize and thank others for the things they do for us. This introspection should help us to gain greater clarity into our own dealings with people.

Another psychological effect of forgiving others is that it teaches us sympathy. When we let go of anger, we can better understand those who are put in the same situation that we were in previously. Sometimes it helps us to not demonize the person who hurt us; the specific thing that they did may have been bad, but when we step back, we sometimes learn that they have their own baggage that caused them to act in a certain way. This is not to condone what they did, but it is to enable us to see that the world is not always so black and white.

3. Physical Productivity: Healthy mind, healthy body

The inability to forgive affects us spiritually and psychologically, and furthermore, has a detrimental effect on our health. One study showed that people who focused on a personal grudge had increased blood pressure and heart rates, as well as increased muscle tension and feelings of being less in control. Participants in this study were asked to imagine forgiving their wrongdoers, and they said they felt more positive and relaxed and thus, the changes disappeared.

May Allah give us the strength to forgive others for their faults, and to forgive us for our own. Allahumma Aamiin.. :)  May Allah bless us and guide us to the highest Jannah, inshaa Allah <3

This cardiovascular surgeon’s story will shake your iman,..Inshaa Allah :')

The Husband Who Was Too Shy To Look At His Wife 

(a moving story)

:')

BISMILLAH,

This story was recounted by Prof. Khalid Al-Jubeir, consulting cardiovascular surgeon, in one of his lectures:

Once I operated on a two and a half year old child. It was Tuesday, and on Wednesday the child was in good health. On Thursday at 11:15 am – and I’ll never forget the time because of the shock I experienced – one of the nurses informed me that the heart and breathing of the child had stopped. I hurried to the child and performed cardiac massage for 45 minutes and during that entire time the heart would not work.

Then, ALLAH decreed for the heart to resume function and we thanked HIM. I went to inform the child’s family about his condition. As you know, it is very difficult to inform the patient’s family about his condition when it’s bad. This is one of the most difficult situations a doctor is subjected to but it is necessary. So I looked for the child’s father whom I couldn’t find. Then I found his mother. I told her that the child’s cardiac arrest was due to bleeding in his throat; we don’t know the cause of this bleeding and fear that his brain is dead. So how do you think she responded? Did she cry? Did she blame me? No, nothing of the sort. Instead, she said “Alhamdulillah” (All Praise is due to ALLAH) and left me.

After 10 days, the child started moving. We thanked ALLAH and were happy that his brain condition was reasonable. After 12 days, the heart stopped again because of the same bleeding. We performed another cardiac massage for 45 minutes but this time his heart didn’t respond. I told his mother that there was no hope. So she said: “Alhamdulillah. O ALLAH, if there is good in his recovery, then cure him, O my Lord.”

With the grace of ALLAH, his heart started functioning again. He suffered six similar cardiac arrests till a trachea specialist was able to stop the bleeding and the heart started working properly. Now, three and a half months had passed and the child was recovering but did not move. Then just as he started moving, he was afflicted with a very large and strange pus-filled abscess in his head, the likes of which I had never seen. I informed his mother of the serious development. She said “Alhamdulillah” and left me.

We immediately turned him over to the surgical unit that deals with the brain and nervous system and they took over his treatment. Three weeks later, the boy recovered from this abscess but was still not moving. Two weeks pass and he suffers from a strange blood poisoning and his temperature reaches 41.2°C (106°F). I again informed his mother of the serious development and she said with patience and certainty: “Alhamdulillah. O ALLAH, if there is good in his recovery, then cure him.”

After seeing his mother who was with her child at Bed#5, I went to see another child at Bed#6. I found that child’s mother crying and screaming, “Doctor! Doctor! Do something! The boy’s temperature reached 37.6°C (99.68°F)! He’s going to die! He’s going to die!” I said with surprise, “Look at the mother of that child in Bed#5. Her child’s fever is over 41°C (106°F), yet she is patient and praises ALLAH.” So she replied: “That woman isn’t conscious and has no senses”. At that point, I remembered the great Hadith of the Prophet (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam): “Blessed are the strangers.” Just two words… but indeed two words that shake a nation! In 23 years of hospital service, I have never seen the likes of this patient sister.

We continued to care for him. Now, six and a half months have passed and the boy finally came out of the recovery unit – not talking, not seeing, not hearing, not moving, not smiling, and with an open chest in which you can see his beating heart. The mother changed the dressing regularly and remained patient and hopeful. Do you know what happened after that? Before I inform you, what do you think are the prospects of a child who has passed through all these dangers, agonies, and diseases? And what do you expect this patient mother to do whose child is at the brink of the grave and who is unable to do anything except supplicate and beseech ALLAH? Do you know what happened two and a half months later? The boy was completely cured by the mercy of ALLAH and as a reward for this pious mother. He now races his mother with his feet as if nothing happened and he became sound and healthy as he was before.

The story doesn’t end here. This is not what moved me and brought tears to my eyes. What filled my eyes with tears is what follows:

One and a half years after the child left the hospital, one of the brothers from the Operations Unit informed me that a man, his wife and two children wanted to see me. I asked who they were and he replied that he didn’t know them. So I went to see them, and I found the parents of the same child whom I operated upon. He was now five years old and like a flower in good health – as if nothing happened to him. With them also was a four-month old newborn. I welcomed them kindly and then jokingly asked the father whether the newborn was the 13th or 14th child. He looked at me with an astonishing smile as if he pitied me. He then said, “This is the second child, and the child upon whom you operated is our first born, bestowed upon us after 17 years of infertility. And after being granted that child, he was afflicted with the conditions that you’ve seen.”

At hearing this, I couldn’t control myself and my eyes filled with tears. I then involuntarily grabbed the man by the arm, and pulling him to my room, asked him about his wife: “Who is this wife of yours who after 17 years of infertility has this much patience with all the fatal conditions that afflict her first born?! Her heart cannot be barren! It must be fertile with Imaan!”Do you know what he said? Listen carefully my dear brothers and sisters. He said, “I was married to this woman for 19 years and for all these years she has never missed the [late] night prayers except due to an authorized excuse. I have never witnessed her backbiting, gossiping, or lying. Whenever I leave home or return, she opens the door, supplicates for me, and receives me hospitably. And in everything she does, she demonstrates the utmost love, care, courtesy, and compassion.” The man completed by saying, “Indeed, doctor, because of all the noble manners and affection with which she treats me, I’m shy to lift up my eyes and look at her. So I said to him: “And the likes of her truly deserve that from you.”

The End…

ALLAH says: And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient; Who, when calamity strikes them, say, “Indeed we belong to ALLAH, and indeed to HIM we will return.” Those are the ones upon whom are blessings from their Lord and mercy. And it is those who are the [rightly] guided. (Surah Al-Baqarah 155-157)

Umm Salamah (the wife of the Prophet) said: I heard the Messenger of ALLAH (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) saying: “There is no Muslim who is stricken by a calamity and says what ALLAH has commanded him – ‘Indeed we belong to ALLAH, and indeed to Him we will return; O ALLAH, reward me for my affliction and compensate me with that which is better’ – except that ALLAH will grant him something better in exchange.” When Abu Salamah [her former husband] passed away, I said to myself: “What Muslim is better than Abu Salamah?” I then said the words, and ALLAH gave me the Messenger of ALLAH (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) in exchange. (Sahih Muslim)

- Copy paste from The Islamic Workplace - 

May Allah bless us &  guide us to the highest Jannah..Allahumma aamiin <3 

Peace :)